Tuesday, February 19, 2013

Alpha Gamma Delta Wedding Tradition

In the Fall of 2008, I joined the sorority Alpha Gamma Delta and even though I'm an alum now, the group still means the world to me! While planning my wedding this past spring I kept coming across different ceremonies for different Greek groups that they do at weddings, and I wanted there to be one for AGD! However, even with much searching, googling and talking to alum, I could never find one!

Thankfully, Megan W., amongst some of my other sorority sisters came to my rescue! The following is the "AGD Wedding Ceremony" as performed at my wedding reception and at my sorority sister Victoria's wedding! Pictures of the ceremony are below as well!

Supplies:
CD/Ipod with the song "Never Alone" by Jim Brickman/Lady Antebellum
Sound system to play the song on
Red/Buff/Green Ribbon - one for each sister in attendance to hold onto - make sure these ribbons are at least several feet long
Bouquet of red, buff and green flowers (roses or otherwise)
Chair for the bride and groom to sit on
Vase to put flowers in

Optional supplies:
Permanent Marker to write a wish to the couple on one of the strands of ribbon

Steps:

Prior to the wedding:
1. Sorority sisters confirm that they want to do the ceremony and organize themselves!
2. Ensure that each sister in attendance knows how the ceremony goes and knows the words to the song! If desired, song lyrics could be printed out.
3. Make sure someone purchases the flowers/ribbon/vase and that someone has a copy of the music
4. Designate soloists! The whole song could be sang as a group, but it sounds prettier with soloists singing the verses!
5. Practice as a group if desired!
6. Tie the ribbons to the flowers/vase just prior to the wedding. It takes longer than you think and the ribbons need to also be longer than you think. The more sisters in attendance the longer the ribbons need to be (because you'll be making a bigger circle).

At the wedding:
7. At some point during the reception (probably after dinner and first few dances), gather the sisters, groom and bride on the dance floor. Have the bride and groom share a chair!
8. Hand the bride and groom the bouquet of flowers (don't let the flowers drip on her dress!!!! Have the flowers dried off or in an empty vase until after the ceremony!!!)
9. Have each sister take hold of one ribbon, and make a circle including the bride and groom.
10. Have a spokesperson share the meaning of the ceremony (so that other guests understand), saying that it is inspired by our love for the couple and our mutual connection to AGD. That each ribbon signifies our connection to the sorority and to the new bride!
11. Sing the song =) try not to cry too much!
12. At the end of the song, during the last chorus, the last time it says "baby you're never alone" replace "baby" with the sister's name.
13. As the song ends, the sisters drop their ribbons signifying "letting go" of their sister and putting them into the husband's care!
14. Take care of the chair/flowers (ask where the bride wants them put) and don't forget your music/ipod!


Just some notes:
-Never Alone was chosen for this because in the Fall of 2010 (the year that I was ritual coordinator), Victoria brought the song to me to introduce to our pref ceremony and it's been used in pref ever since =) if you haven't heard it, you're missing out!!
-It's supposed to be a surprise to the bride and groom, so don't go parading around with the flowers (lol). However, it is advisable to try to make sure not to interrupt the reception if something else is going on, or disrupt the couple's plans. I guess, try to sneekly figure out the game plan for the reception!

Any questions or comments feel free to comment below and I'll try to answer them!! Below are some pictures, courtesy of J2 Photography (http://j2foto.com/), from my wedding on April 14th, 2012. 






2 comments:

  1. Remember how I was singing a solo but was totally bawling and could barely get it out? lol

    Happy tears! You were a beautiful bride, and are an amazing Big, and I was so happy to participate in this ceremony that you definitely deserved :)

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  2. Thanks for posting this! One of my sisters is getting married in the winter and this will be perfect!

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